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12 Genius Tips for Photographing Children (Unruly Ones Too)

Last updated: November 12, 2023 - 9 min read
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It can be really exciting to document families. But it isn’t always easy photographing children or growing families with little ones.

These 12 tips will help you get through a difficult session with unruly children. You’ll get those photos that the family will cherish for many years to come.

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Out Top 12 Tips For Photographing Children

Read on to make the most of your photoshoot with your children.

1. Get on The Kid’s Level

Children, especially those under five, are not keen to be photographed—especially by a stranger. The first step in getting them to gain confidence in you is to get on their level.

cute portrait of a little boy outdoors

Stoop down onto one knee and take some time to introduce yourself and even show them your camera. Showing them a photo that you’ve taken of them will also grab their attention.

This will pique their interest in what you’re doing and perhaps may even pose a little more for the next photos.

sweet family portrait of parents holding a little girls hand outdoors

Getting on their level will also help set you apart from their parents. They are usually the ones who have all the authority.

It will make you a friend rather than another adult they have to take orders from.

2. Involve the Children in the Session

Children often become unruly and difficult during portrait sessions. They feel like they are following orders.

lifestyle family portrait

Keep an eye out to check if their energy is draining or they’re acting out. Try and have them engage in the session in a different way.

Have them come over and stand by you while you get photographs of the older siblings or the parents alone.

diptych portrait of a family on the beach demonstrating good ways to photograph unruly children

Ask them if they want to be your assistant and that you need help making mom and dad smile.

Have them tell jokes or make funny faces—anything that helps them to take part in the session. Children love to change roles with their parents and will find it both entertaining and fun!

3. Play With the Children

Sometimes children need to play, not pose. They need to let out their energy and don’t care much that mom and dad are paying you for portraits.

lifestyle portrait of a father and little boy outdoors

Go with it and play with them a bit. For babies, getting close and making noises or tickling (with parent approval) usually works to get their attention.

Move back and get the shot. If you can use a tripod for this, even better. Or have an assistant help you make them smile.

For children around 2-4, bonking your head with a noisy toy chicken or another noisy toy usually gets them riled up.

This can also mean you’re behind your camera and can get the shot faster.

cute portrait of a father and little boy outdoors

Saying funny things like “Eww daddy farted!” or something that gets a reaction out of the children will help you get a real smile. And it’ll keep them where they are.

It’s even better if you can get mom and dad on board to do some silly faces or noises.

Getting them to play can also give them a little break from posing or as they know it, standing in one spot for too long.

lifestyle portrait of a little girl crouching on the grass

Playing can also involve exploring, looking around the location for lost treasure, or having them lead the play.

You’ll find that once you play a bit with the children, they’ll loosen up. They’ll be more willing to pose with mommy and daddy to go back to playing.

4. Phrases for Redirecting the Child’s Attention

Let parents know that saying “no” can shut down children. They want to push the limits with their new photographer friend.

Telling parents to refrain from using the “n-o” word can shift the energy of the session. It can make it so that the children are more willing to follow instructions.

cute portrait of a little boy outdoors

Use phrases that redirect the children’s ideas or if they are firm on their uncooperative attitude. Use phrases like “That is a great idea, but, how about we first go over here with mommy and daddy?”

These redirect the children, and all the while you’re acknowledging them in the process.

diptych portrait of two kids playing in leaves demonstrating good ways to photograph unruly children

You can also redirect unruly behavior when children aren’t willing to smile. Saying something like “Oh don’t smile, don’t you dare smile! I don’t want any smiles!” can actually bring about smiles.

When a child is getting restless, you can try and have the children break away from the parents a bit.

Giving them space can also help them to not feel too pressured to pose, stand in one spot, smile, or otherwise.

5. Take a Break

diptych portrait of a young boy demonstrating good ways to photograph unruly children

Most often, the reason children are acting out is that they need a break. Mention to parents before the session that they should bring snacks and drinks for their children. Just in case they need them during the session.

Breaks can also be a great opportunity for you to photograph the family being natural. Or to get other details like the location of the session for the family photo album.

a family walking through a forest park

6. Change the Scenery

Children get tired of being in one spot for too long at a time. This can sometimes result in meltdowns and shutting down during sessions.

If this is the case during the portrait session you’re shooting, change the scenery.

You can change locations or move the session from, say, the sand to the water. Or perhaps from the lake at the park to the games for the children.

sweet family portrait of parents holding a little girls hand outdoors

With the change in scenery, you can redirect the attention of the children to another part of the location. This might be new to them, or at least more fun.

7. Keep the Session Moving

Nothing makes a child more uncooperative than having to stand in one place for a long period of time.

Getting the family posed, then composing the shot, having them smile, is a lot for little ones to be happy about.

lifestyle portrait of a little girl crouching on the grass

When you’re taking portraits of families with younger children, keep the session moving.

This means that for every spot, take about two or three shots and then repose the family or give them something to do.

diptych portrait of a young girl playing and holding her parents hands demonstrating good ways to photograph unruly children

After, move from that spot into a new one. Keeping things moving along keeps the children from getting restless. Restlessness brings about meltdowns.

8. Encourage the Children Throughout the Whole Session

Encouraging children throughout the entire session is like giving them a gold star each time you take a photo.

Using their name, make sure to shout “Great job/you’re awesome/wow you’re doing so great!”

diptych portrait of kids playing demonstrating good ways to photograph unruly children

You might also have to do this with older siblings. They can sometimes feel like they get ignored if a younger sibling is around.

Shifting the attention among siblings and saying things like “Wow you’re so good at this, I see you! Where is your smile (child’s name)? Is it hiding?”

diptych portrait of a young boy demonstrating good ways to photograph unruly children

A simple, “I see you (child’s name) and you’re doing so great!” can be the ticket to a great smile and fun experience.

9. Be Willing to Act Silly and Sing Songs

Children love to be silly, sing songs, and make funny noises. You shouldn’t be afraid to act accordingly if you want to get their attention.

diptych portrait of a young boy demonstrating good ways to photograph unruly children

Anything from animal noises to wheels on the bus for the 100th time can make a child warm up to you. They’ll give you that fun and authentic smile.

Ask the parents for what songs the child likes best and go with that. If they don’t have any favorites, then you can try animal sounds or car sounds—anything that will grab the child’s attention.

sweet family portrait of parents holding a little girls hand outdoors on the beach

From there, they’ll either sing with you or laugh at you. This is where you get your shot!

10. Talk About Something That They Love

Not all children perk up to encouragement, silly noises, or songs, so try and find one thing that they like.

It could be that they watch Paw Patrol every day and love how the pups save the day. Or it could be another child loves legos.

diptych portrait of a family with young kids demonstrating good ways to photograph unruly children

Ask the parents what the child likes and try and talk about how you like that activity as well.

Older children, from five years to 10 years, have lots of things they like to do. They love talking about them or telling stories.

cute portrait of a father and little boy outdoors

You can also ask the parents to chime in and bring out what favorite things they like to talk about, read, watch, etc.

Getting them talking about something they like will open them up to you. Eventually, they won’t even notice you’re taking photos.

11. Use Props and Toys

You might try all of the above tips and still not be able to get the child(ren) to cooperate. Try bringing out some of their favorite toys, or toys that you have brought along.

diptych portrait of a family with young kids demonstrating good ways to photograph unruly children

This can get them talking, playing, exploring, and interested in the session. It can also get their attention, especially if they are two years old or younger.

Props can also give the whole family an activity to do. Like bringing books, a picnic setup, or some toys to dig in the sand can all make for more lifestyle photos.

They’ll give the children something that they like to do.

diptych portrait of a two young kids on the beach demonstrating good ways to photograph unruly children

It also helps to break up the session so the children don’t start to get bored. Older children—those 10 years and further into the teenage years—get bored as well.

Since they are generally more self-conscious, an activity like a football can help take the nerves out and relax everyone involved.

12. When All Else Fails, Try Bribery

There is nothing more effective than bribery. But this trick can wear out pretty quickly if you start with it.

lifestyle portrait of a little girl crouching on the grass

Bribery, with the approval of mom and dad, can include candy, ice cream, TV shows, or even getting to splash in the water rather than just touching it.

Bribery means you’re withholding a treat until they do what you’ve asked. If you keep doing this, they may get tired of the withholding part quickly.

lifestyle portrait of a family with young kids demonstrating good ways to photograph unruly children

This should be used as a last resort and always with the permission of parents. It might not be okay for a child to eat sweets or within a parent’s plan to stop for ice cream.

Either way, this can work wonders in getting those smiles out.

lifestyle portrait of a family with young kids demonstrating good ways to photograph unruly children

Conclusion

Children aren’t used having to stand still for long periods of time. They can be a bit unruly when it comes to photographing children.

With these 12 great tips, you can bet that you’ll get more smiles than tantrums.

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